There is never an excuse for abuse. No matter the form. Whether it be one punch, one threat, or one verbal “joke”: abuse is abuse. Domestic violence is real. Relationship abuse is real. Family and sibling abuse is real. If someone is telling you that they are being abused, don’t compare it to your circumstances and don’t ignore them.
As a survivor of abuse and bullying, I know the long term affects that abuse has on the mind and the body.
If you hit and yell at your child to a point that they are scared of you, you may be an abuser.
If you belittle your spouse and tell them they are worthless, you may be an abuser.
If you hit your sister and terrify her to the point that she is crying and calling for help, you may be an abuser.
Many abusers were once or are abused themselves. Many abusers do not even know that they are abusing their victims.
If you have been abused I stand with you. End abuse by learning they different types of abusers and noticing the signs of those abused.
I was abused for years before I learned to ask for help. Asking for help and seeking aid is important. You have the power to free yourself from abuse. You have the power to call for help.
In the event that you are currently being abused please reach out for help from someone you trust, a church leader, counselor, a friend. If you are being abused and it is affecting your physical and mental wellbeing or any of those around you seek help now. Call a counselor or call the national domestic violence hotline: tel:1-800-799-7233 or the national child abuse hotline: 1-800-422- 4453. If there is a life threatening risk or you fear your safety or another’s call 911 immediately.
There is a way out and it starts with you.
There are many types of abuse:
- Economic Abuse
- Sexual Abuse
- Physical Abuse
- Verbal Abuse
- Emotional Abuse
- Academic Abuse
- Psychological Abuse
You can be abused by anyone you know and you may not even realize it.
I was abused by my own father and brother. I experienced emotional, physical, verbal, and psychological abuse. I went from idolizing my brother to living in fear that he would kill me. There were times when I could have been killed. I was hit with remotes, knives, rocks, fists, etc. I was yelled at, told I was fat since age 10, told I was “a b**** just like my mother at 11, told I was provoking my brother at 12, told it was my fault at 13, told I would not be “picked on” if I wasn’t a girl at 14, told “I wish I never married your mom” every time I saw my dad till I was 15. At 16, my dad told me he wished he never had us kids, his life would be better without us. At 16 I had had enough. I told my father that I would no longer stand for his emotional, verbal and psychological abuse. I was done. I yell at him for the first time ever. I think it scared him that I was standing up to him. I was no longer a small child with no voice. He told me to never come back. So I didn’t.
I have never talked to my brother about his abuse toward me. I know he was abused by my dad too, until he was big enough to scare my dad. He never received punishment for hurting me, he never apologized. But I forgive him now.
Raise our voice and make a noise! I had to fight my battle with the help of my sister I was able to free myself from this abuse. I want to empower others to do the same.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
#Standupandyell #fightforwhatsright #endabuse
You can do it.
-Breanna Joy Norton